The Law of Attraction, Relationships
It does sometimes appear as though the Law of Attraction, relationships and money all work in partnership. Certainly money and relationships share some vibrational harmony. When we feel abundantly wealthy the law of attraction, relationships feeling is more likely to attract a good relationship and vice versa. With the law of attraction and relationships it is vital that you focus on the emotion of the relationship going wonderfully.
Remember that you can only ever change your point of vibration, no-one else’s. Don't try to change someone else’s behaviour. Instead focus on the feeling you had hoped to get if that behaviour had stopped. This will begin to attract that feeling - which is normally some type of one of relief.
The Law of Attraction, Money
The law of attraction, relationships and money do enhance each other positively (or negatively). Great relationship building skills enrich relationships and are very helpful in creating cash. Just as having plenty of wealth can reduce some disagreements and smooth negotiations in relationships.
Money is a common reason for people to consider the law of attraction. Money is something that most people feel they need more of. This unfortunately is exactly the feeling that attracts more of the feeling of needing more.
Like when using the law of attraction for relationships, simply focus on evoking the feeling that would exist if everything was as you wished it to be, Specifically for money, focus on gratitude for what you have and the elation that you will experience when you have more, but don't look at the negatives.
This doesn't mean ignore them. Simply don't emotionalise on them. See them as "what is" and go back to focusing on the feelings you want to attract.
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Fairy tales are wonderful stories for young children. They give us a sense of place and a great deal of hopefulness for the future. Of course, someday my Prince (or Princess) will come and we will live happily ever after... Yet, why does the story always end when the two finally meet? What does happily ever after mean?
Contrary to popular belief and, perhaps, our own fantasy life, good relationships don't just "happen". They take thoughtfulness, time, love, and work. Progressing through recognizable stages, all relationships experience crises and demand at least some flexibility on our parts. A willingness to stay together through the storms is the only way to get to the peacefulness on the other side. Yet (in my opinion) it is all very much worth it.
A good relationship can not only bring us much joy and happiness, but it can also be one of the most freeing experiences of life. With that in mind, let's examine the process.
The Stages of Relationship
The first stage of a relationship is the attraction/ honeymoon phase (Oh, my goodness, we're JUST alike!). You meet. You think you like one another. You've been lonely for so long and now, finally(?), here's someone who understands you. You fall in love. Now, you can't get enough of each other.
The second stage begins when you get to know each other well enough to become aware of the FATAL FLAW (or flaws). THIS wasn't what I bargained for! Isn't there some mistake? Hopefully, you haven't totally gotten past phase one yet, so there's still some interest in hanging out together and seeing what happens.
EVERY RELATIONSHIP GOES THROUGH THIS STAGE.
As none of us is perfect (who would want to have to be?) and we all bring our past histories into new relationships, no two people automatically fit together like hands and gloves. Even your soul mate (and I believe in them) won't exactly "match".
Think about it. If we live thousands of lifetimes (as I truly feel we do) and only sometimes connect with our soul mates, then he or she has a completely different "set" of past experiences to color where he or she is at. That's just how it is.
The third stage of a relationship involves sorting it through. What, exactly, can you learn to live with and what needs to be addressed? The fact that the toothpaste tube gets squeezed from the top or the toilet paper comes off the roll from the bottom is, in the grand manner of things, not that big of a deal. If, however, one of you wants children and the other doesn't, that needs to be discussed. Or, if you would like to live in Hawaii and he or she prefers England, you need to talk.
The next stage of a relationship requires working it through. If you get resentful that you're the only one who squeezes the toothpaste from the bottom, stop. Who really cares if there's a little pile of dirty socks at the end of the bed? A smoker living with a nonsmoker could be asked to limit this activity to one or two rooms. A sense of humor can make all the difference in the world during this phase. Plan on doing some give and take here; and I emphasize BOTH -- not just give and not just take. And, remember, it takes time. Communicate. Listen. Bargain. And, perhaps most important of all, THINK.
In my opinion, one of the commonest mistakes made in relationships is believing that love is enough. While love is absolutely necessary, don't forget to use your head! Human nature may be strange, but it is absolutely predictable. Think it through. The final stage of a relationship is a great and abiding friendship with ease. By this time, you know each other well enough (probably better than you even wanted!) to know what to expect. You have a history together. You've survived a few crises. You've quite literally learned to live with one another. This is the payoff phase and it can really be quite wonderful. But this stage doesn't come after a few short weeks or even a few months. It generally takes years to get here. Hang in there because it is well worth it.
Rules For A Great Relationship
All relationships are different. They come in as many shapes and sizes as the bountiful palette of humans. However, the following are a few guidelines designed to assist you in the building of a good, long lasting relationship.
1. Be fair. Who wants to live with someone who isn't?
2. Be honest, but not brutally so. There's a fine line between what you could say and what you truly need to say. Be aware of where it is and don't cross it.
3. Keep it even. Good relationships happen between equals; whatever that means to you. It is helpful to have similar backgrounds, values, and goals, but more necessary to keep a balance between you. If you feel you are doing more than your fair share, stop. Allowing your relationship to lean or list to one side is the fastest way to make it fall.
4. Fight fair. It's healthy to fight. It clears the air and keeps resentments from building. However, keeping the fight to the matter at hand is crucial. Never, ever, make proclamations such as "You're just like your mother", etc. Remember, too, that although most of what we are shown in this world is us versus them, a relationship is built on a partnership model.
5. Maintain a strong sense of self and know who you are. As far as I'm concerned, we come to this planet to learn individuality and free will (my husband, Bob, calls it Freewill 101). We do, indeed, create our own realities. Because our major lesson in life is selfhood, relationships that don't honor this fact do not last. We cannot complete ourselves in another; it simply isn't allowed. It is also important to realize that human beings have very addictive personalities. While some folks may think that they want to have happy lives and good relationships, they are actually much too addicted to the drama of being able to tell sad stories.
6. Know and nourish your own boundaries. Fairy tales and soap opera romances would have us believe that the purpose of a healthy match is to immerse ourselves in one another. Nothing could be further from the truth. Once we lose our boundaries in a relationship, it is only a matter of time before it dies. Shakespeare spoke of this in Romeo and Juliet. Again, because this, too, is a violation of individuality, it simply isn't allowed to continue.
7. Have fun. Relationships shouldn't be all work, but sometimes learning how to have fun is actually quite a challenge. Learning how to laugh at ourselves can speed up this process greatly. Laughter can also be very disarming and a touch of humor is the fastest way to break tensions. If you aren't blessed with a good sense of humor already, don't despair. It can be learned.
8. Listen and communicate.
Words. What do they mean?
The same words actually mean different things to different people. Because we all bring our pasts with us and no two individuals come from exactly the same place, words often contain unintended hooks and barbs. I have a friend who used to routinely answer his wife's inquiries with "I don't care." What he meant, of course, was, "Well, if that's something you want to do, go ahead." One day, she collapsed in tears and said, "How can you keep saying that you don't care?" He never said it again. Words are also the means by which we continually create the stories of our lives. Our thoughts are constantly imprinting on our own subconscious "computers" and what we think and believe to be true about ourselves happens. Don't underestimate your own very real power.
9. Be forgiving. Everyone makes mistakes. I suspect that every relationship has moments when any self-respecting man or woman should pack his or her bags and move out. The bottom line is, do you really want to? Because if you don't, you could be complicating things with a show of temper. Then, again, sometimes statements are necessary. Think it through but be ready with forgiveness when the time comes for reconciliation.
10. Nourish the love. Be affectionate. Love is the glue that keeps people together in relationships. After all, it's hard enough living with somebody that you DO love. Lovers should also be friends, but friends who are not lovers are just playing house.
11. Avoid ultimatums. Ultimatums are very dramatic and can easily grab attention. They can also get you into big trouble fast.
12. Cultivate activities done together and separately. Relationships need common ground, but they also need spaces. Keeping some of your own interests and friends gives you something to talk about when you get back together.
13. Don't share absolutely everything. Do we really need to know that your last lover was better in bed or a bigger wage earner? I think not.
14. Last but not least: If you MUST throw something, make sure it's soft because it's probably coming back!
The Laws of Manifestation
Okay, all this is well and good, but what if you don't happen to have a Mr. or Ms. Right in the picture at the moment? Never fear! There are things to do... One of the trickiest bits about relationships is that we can't learn about our own expectations alone. It takes practice and being with another person in order to realize our own innermost thoughts about what he or she should do or say. I have always been amazed that our society has -- in the past -- expected people to "get it right" in their very first marriage when we really are flying blind. How do we know what marriage (or living together) is like until we try it? It's impossible. Therefore, I encourage anyone with a "failed" relationship to look at it as a learning experience, a necessary step along the way to perfection.
Instead of being upset with it, use it to understand where it went wrong or why that type of person is not the best for you. It's absolutely true that two incredibly great people can bring out the worst in each other if they are not a good match. Knowing who you, yourself, are is the very first step to seeing what an equal partner would look like. Then, begin to picture what EXACTLY you seek in a mate. Be specific. Think about it. Prioritize; is it more important that you live in the country or make lots of money? Do you need the security of stocks and bonds or desire the freedom of the adventurer? Take your time. Write it down. What you are doing here is creating a precise picture of what this person is like. Fill in lots of details but make sure you know which ones are the most important to you.
Once you feel pretty comfortable with this picture, let it go. Stop thinking about it. In this way, you are sending your picture out into the universe to go and locate your ideal honey for you and set up the conditions under which you can meet. Then, be sure to get out and about. If you want to meet a man, go to the places where men hang out; take up downhill skiing or sign up for a drumming class. If you want to meet a woman, go where women gather; aerobics classes and art or hobby classes are some of many activities which seem to attract a good number of them.
Action is necessary because, unlike in the fairy tales, the knight in shining armor does not always find his way to your back door. Remember, too, that relationship is a dance. It's a flow; back and forth, around and around. It, like everything else in life, has its good days and its bad days. When you get it right, though, there's nothing else that compares. It fills you both with peace, joy, happiness, security, and laughter. You get to build a life together instead of walking your path alone. It takes time, but one of the only truisms in life is that time passes. Why not use it wisely?
Being human isn't easy. There are many pitfalls in the Path; potential wrong turns, dead ends, and potholes. So, why are we here, anyway? The best description I've ever heard is that God/Goddess wants friends. The task may be formidable, but the rewards are also great. Good luck!
Author: Celeste Longacre
As posted in www.scribd.com
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Old myths about money abound. Everyone's heard the saying, "Money is the root of all evil" (although the actual Bible verse is "The love of money is the root of all evil" the interpretation is usually the same). And we all cringed when the character Gordon Gekko in the film "Wall Street" delivered the now infamous "Greed is Good" speech.
Another myth is the concept of "zero sum economics." This is the idea that there is only so much money in the world and that if you make or have more, somebody else will have less. Or, put another way, you can increase your wealth only at the expense of someone else. We all have our share, our piece of the pie, and wanting lots of money means wanting our own share plus part of another's. But it doesn't work that way. Your abundance does not deprive others of their abundance.
Given this general antipathy toward money, how do we reconcile our need ‑‑ and desire ‑‑ for it? How do we, as chiropractors, give ourselves permission to make wealth one of the primary goals of our practice?
Money as a tool
When confronted with people who say they wouldn't want to make lots of money and be focused on materialism, multi‑millionaire businessman Greg Duncan, replies: "That is so sad. You mean you can't think of anything to spend money on that's constructive other than materialistic trinkets? That's a sad state of affairs. You can't think of anyone to spend that money on other than you? ... Then I hope you stay broke because we don't need people like you of shallow character amplified in our society, particularly by a million bucks. But if you have any soul, any character whatsoever ... and you're spending your life and money enhancing other people in life, I wish you a million dollars a day."
Think about earning a million dollars a day (or a year, if you can't quite think that big). What could you do with that money? Who could you help? Take a pen and paper and jot down a few of the possibilities:
Yourself ‑‑ You could dedicate yourself wholeheartedly to your family, your business, your community or your interests, without the burden of worrying about money.
Your family and loved ones ‑‑ Imagine giving your spouse, children, grandchildren, parents, siblings or significant other the gift of freedom from financial worry.
Your community ‑‑ The local high school could have a new gymnasium. The senior citizen center could have funds to expand its meals‑on‑wheels program. The youth center could have a computer lab.
Your spiritual home ‑‑ Wouldn't it be great to jumpstart the new building fund or buy new hymnals for everyone in the congregation?
Your patients ‑‑ You could afford to set up a "free chiropractic care clinic" for inner‑city residents, or run full page ads explaining the true purpose of chiropractic.
Your profession ‑‑ Ever wanted to fund a really important chiropractic research project? Or pay for a national public relations campaign?
Your world ‑‑ There are thousands of humanitarian, environmental, and social causes that need your help. Feed the hungry, clean up our rivers, promote equality, protect the rainforest, combat child abuse, shelter battered women, fight hatred and prejudice.
Your political party ‑‑ Whether you're a member of the Democratic, Republican, Libertarian, Green, Tory, or Labor Party (or any of the countless other political parties around the world!) your money could advance your political convictions.
Obviously, money can be used for a lot more than "materialistic trinkets." So why wouldn't you want a million dollars a year ... or a day? The only other objection might be that it takes too much time and work to make that much money. If six days a week you have to put in 14 hour days, it isn't worth it.
That's absolutely true. If the only way to make a lot of money is by working longer and harder, then the result will be more money but no time or energy to do anything with it. It would be like the man who was so busy harvesting his vegetable crop that he didn't take time to eat ‑‑ and he starved to death in the middle of a field of food.
Luckily, in this age of information and technology, making money doesn't depend solely on the number of hours you put in at the office. There are ethical and reliable ways to boost your income significantly without working extra hours. In fact, there are ways to earn a great deal more while actually reducing the hours you spend at the office. That means more time and energy for your family, friends and community!
(Dr. Terry Rondberg is president of the World Chiropractic Alliance and publisher of The Chiropractic Journal He is also founder of Chiropractors for Wellness, a company promoting chiropractic's role as wellness providers and helping doctors achieve financial success through the private franchise model. For more information on Chiropractors for Wellness, call 800‑704‑4791 in the U.S. or 480‑303‑1778 outside the U.S.)
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